one dead husband...FIVE other women?

not only can't i make this stuff up, i wouldn't want to.

i believe im supposed to feel sorry for the author of the book Perfection: a memoir of love and betrayal, because after her husband died, she discovered he'd been cheating on her with FIVE other women.

she says that what she learned from a brief affair of her own with someone else's husband was that "there are right things and wrong things to do and you will pay for them if you harm someone else."

i mean... seriously. that's it? that's what she learned? break your word, or be party to another's dishonorable act, against another woman and possibly her children in their most vulnerable place, and you think that's why you shouldn't do it? cause you pay for it?

obviously her husband didn't. he died peacefully of an aneurysm, leaving a legacy of merry mayhem in his wake. seems to me he got away with it all.

how ms metz could be so deluded doesn't really surprise me, and i didn't need to read any further in the new york times article this morning. the seeds of her husband's infidelities were sown like the eggs of dead cockroaches when she failed to understand the real lesson.

she was wrong to cheat with a married friend in her youth not because someone made her "pay." (though how, exactly, i wondered, did anyone really do that? i don't see how a card full of dead cockroaches, no matter how long one keeps it, could in any way be equal to the pain ms metz inflicted.)

ms metz clearly failed to understand some aspect of the lesson of her own experience, and so the Universe slammed it back at her, times five. she seems to have come through it all okay, although i'm not sure from reading the article she really gets the bigger picture.

i don't know if i want to read the book...libby will be spending a lot of time tutoring or volunteering at the library this summer so perhaps i will check it out... but i AM really glad that ms metz made her dead husband and his cheating her problem.

and furthermore, the war will end. blessed be.