i belong to an online forum for women called cafemom. most of the women are much younger than i am now, and it's odd to find myself among the Elders. it's a nice place for the most part - i've met a lot of wonderful women at all stages of their journeys. many of whom are married to a lot of really idiotic men.
don't get me wrong - there's many who are happily attached in mutually nurturing relationships. there's many men who are kind, caring, compassionate and mature. but there're a lot who aren't.
and they don't deserve the women who spend so much bemoaning what's wrong with themselves. so to all the women out there married to a man who seems impossible to get along with (immature, irresponsible, selfish, intolerant, etc) - YES, SISTER - HE IS.
and no, he doesn't deserve you. so leave his sorry ass by the roadside and go make a better life somewhere else for you and your kid. if he is really worth going back to, he will continue to help you in any way he can with the children. but if he's so messed up, he'd rather play a video game than change and feed a crying baby, don't bet on it.
posting that actually got me kicked out of one forum - i really don't play well with others - for not being positive. i don't understand. being a single mother is much better than just feeling like one.
and furthermore, the war must end. blessed be.